Dec 21, Friday, 6 pm-8 pm Forbidden Fruit will host a special book signing event for Intimacies: Secrets of Love, Sex & Romance. Please join us. I’ll make a presentation at 6:30 pm, and there’ll be refreshments. The store is full of adult toys that we’ll have fun talking about and that you can get for your last-minute holiday shopping.
I took a round of opinion about what people think of flirts. We got lots of comments from those who came to BookPeople on Nov 14 for the Intimacies Discussion group.
Janet Trent Moorehead, the Mojo Maker, told everyone that studies have shown that what makes someone a good flirt isn’t so much what they say, but how they say it. It’s the tone of your voice, not the words you use. What counts much more than your spoken language is your body language. Making eye contact is the key. Look at someone for a full 15 seconds. If they return your gaze, you’ll know they are open to yours. If they break it off. Go on to the next person.
You have to be quick at reading people when you flirt. It’s like dancing. You are always getting feedback if you are alert to it.
A genuine smile is also key to flirting success. Janet says that if you’re doing something you like doing and if you’re having fun, you share that sense of fun and attract others to you.
Don’t be afraid to make contact physically. You can touch someone without being sexually offensive. Tap his knee. Brush her elbow, take her hand, ask if she minds you playing with her hair. Physical touch makes you much more present with another person. It gives them a sense of who you are.
How do you feel about flirts? What flirtatious behavior works for you? Dishing it out or delighting in it when you see it?
While exhibiting my book at the Texas Book Festival, I was surprised to observe how some people seemed shy about coming over to learn about what turned out to be a rare (for the festival) “adult” title. Did the red cover with the images suggestive of hot passion scare them away? While the cover may look racy, the content deserves a PG rating. I engaged passers-by my booth by giving out free copies of The Good Life magazine, explaining that I wrote a column for it and suggesting that, if they enjoyed reading the sample column, they should visit https://trueintimacies.com and buy the book. The public seemed to fall into one of two categories. Some were interested in the topic; their faces lit up with recognition when they realized the content of the book spoke directly to their romantic interests and a number bought the book with the hope of finding insights to their personal relationships. Others clearly broadcast messages that they had absolutely no interest in such personal issues. I was, frankly, surprised by the number of people who emphatically denied any interest in love, sex or romance. To which camp to you belong? Do you count yourself among those who disdain intimacies? Why? Tell me about it!
A couple of days later, I was looking over the book while I sat in a doctor’s waiting room. I wondered if anyone would notice what I was reading and how they would react to the word, “Sex” in the title. Would it make you blush? What does it say about someone who carries around reading with such a title?
The book, Intimacies: Secrets of Love, Sex & Romance, are now available at two retail locations in Austin. Get a copy at at BookPeople and BookWoman. Any retail bookstore can special order the books.
